Relationship Advice Thread - Page 104

someone447 · 08-31-2009, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ShutDwn

Ugh, this chick basically ruined my night last night. Well, not ruined but definitely held it back.

She is okay looking, but I met her a few nights ago at a party and she gave me her number. I wasn't that interested so I never did anything. Fast forward to last night, I go to a pretty big party, and there she is. She sees me like as soon as I get there but I try and "not see her". Anyway, she eventually walks up to me and I have to deal with the whole "why didn't you call?" and really boring conversation. Completely killed any chance to talk to new chicks.

Really the only reason I talked to her the first time was because I was a bit more inebriated. Plus she had better friends too.

Not really relationship help, just venting, unless anyone knows of a sure trick to get out of that. She wasn't taking no for an answer. I was trying to think of a good way out, then the cops came so I was actually thankful.

Classes start tomorrow though, so hopefully I can have a lot of good opportunities for new ladies.

Turn around and walk away in the middle of her talking, thats what I do if I am uninterested and can't get away politely.

someone447 · 08-31-2009, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by bsaza2358

I love how girls are allowed to pull the "why didn't you call?" card, but guys aren't. Don't you enjoy double standards?

If I have no interest in ever calling a girl, I'm not going to take her #. If she tries one or twice, I'll just change the subject and try to walk away. If she tries 3-4 times, I'm going to flat out say nicely "not interested". If she pushes it after that, I'll firmly tell her to leave me alone that she's making me uncomfortable. Any problem after that, and I start going on the attack and kind of be a huge jerk about it.

So yeah, your problem is that you took the # in the first place. Drunk or not, you need to be smarter and foresee that kind of BS.

I'll take the not being able to ask why a girl didn't call, because we get to have sex without being judged.

awfullyquiet · 09-01-2009, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by someone447

Turn around and walk away in the middle of her talking, thats what I do if I am uninterested and can't get away politely.

that's really the way to do it...

you'll get a girl to shut up mighty quick that way

bsaza2358 · 09-01-2009, 09:20 AM

There are double standards all over the place. Just saying that the woman pulling that card is absolute BS...

awfullyquiet · 09-01-2009, 09:35 AM

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Originally Posted by bsaza2358

There are double standards all over the place. Just saying that the woman pulling that card is absolute BS...

welcome to modern dating: the equal rights movement and you.

Brent · 09-01-2009, 10:12 AM

if a girl says, "why didnt you call?" and she has your number too, the only appropriate response is "a phone works both ways"

Saints 4 Lyfe · 09-01-2009, 10:19 AM

no one "calls" anymore.

YAYareaRB · 09-01-2009, 10:21 AM

I text bitches

Saints 4 Lyfe · 09-01-2009, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by YAYareaRB

I text bitches

bitches love smiley faces.

YAYareaRB · 09-01-2009, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Saints 4 Lyfe

bitches love smiley faces.

Yeah especially this one =]

Vikes99ej · 09-01-2009, 10:41 AM

What's the rule for texting or calling a chick after you meet her at a party or whatever? How long should one wait?

Saints 4 Lyfe · 09-01-2009, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

What's the rule for texting or calling a chick after you meet her at a party or whatever? How long should one wait?

some see texting as "less personal" so i'd text very next day just to see whats up. if things go good probably call the next day or same day. i'd text very next day though.

YAYareaRB · 09-01-2009, 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

What's the rule for texting or calling a chick after you meet her at a party or whatever? How long should one wait?

I would do it next day. Texting is just breaking the ice so I would start off with that.

awfullyquiet · 09-01-2009, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Saints 4 Lyfe

some see texting as "less personal" so i'd text very next day just to see whats up. if things go good probably call the next day or same day. i'd text very next day though.

20 hours....

CashmoneyDrew · 09-01-2009, 12:03 PM

If you like the girl, never text or call her. If she's a hood rat you're just gonna run through just wait a day.

Vikes99ej · 09-01-2009, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by VoodooMonkey

If you like the girl, never text or call her. If she's a hood rat you're just gonna run through just wait a day.

So what do you do if you actually feel something for someone? Although I doubt you meet someone like that at a college party

CashmoneyDrew · 09-01-2009, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

So what do you do if you actually feel something for someone? Although I doubt you meet someone like that at a college party

I'm just kidding. It's a semi-quote from 40 YOV. Whether you like her or just want to do your thing, wait a day.

Vikes99ej · 09-01-2009, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by VoodooMonkey

I'm just kidding. It's a semi-quote from 40 YOV. Whether you like her or just want to do your thing, wait a day.

Yeah, I was thinking it might be creepy to do it like the afternoon after, but if I waited a few days she might not remember me lol

Saints 4 Lyfe · 09-01-2009, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

Yeah, I was thinking it might be creepy to do it like the afternoon after, but if I waited a few days she might not remember me lol

nothing wrong with next afternoon.

You: "hey whats up?"

Her: "Who's this?"

You: "We met at the party last night"

Her: "Oh yeah want to have wild and crazy butt seks tonight?"

how it usually goes.

Brent · 09-01-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by awfullyquiet

20 hours...

Duly noted. It's nice to have at least one sane female confirm a length of time.

awfullyquiet · 09-01-2009, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Brent

Duly noted. It's nice to have at least one sane female confirm a length of time.

really... there's perfect logic to it too...

you meet someone the night before... say, 8pm. you text at 4pm the next day... in preparation for... hey. whatcha doin tonight?

Brent · 09-01-2009, 03:33 PM

does that apply to calling, too?

dabears10 · 09-01-2009, 03:45 PM

Does this still apply if you meet them later in the night. I often get a number after 11. I am still in college time.

someone447 · 09-01-2009, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

What's the rule for texting or calling a chick after you meet her at a party or whatever? How long should one wait?

Whenever you feel like it, there is no rule. If you like a girl call or text her whenever you feel like it, **** playing games. Just don't be a creeper and you're fine however much later you call/text.

ATLDirtyBirds · 09-01-2009, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

What's the rule for texting or calling a chick after you meet her at a party or whatever? How long should one wait?

If I just get their number fresh, I'll normally try and set up a time to meet and in the next day or so text saying something like, "We still a go for 7 on Friday?" Or I'll make light of the situation and just say, "You don't prescribed to that wait a couple days before I call **** do you?" She'll normally just laugh and say something like give me a call on such and such day. That way you probably won't get her while she's busy and wonder why she isn't texting or calling back.