Relationship Advice Thread

[ATLDirtyBirds]

Pay very little attention to her. Make sure she sees you interacting with other girls. Either she'll come back to you, or she won't give a damn because it was an in the moment thing. And if the latter is the case, who gives a ****, you've moved on.

[OSUGiants17]

Yea I think it's worth a shot just because of her rack

[OSUGiants17]

Originally Posted by ATLDirtyBirds

Pay very little attention to her. Make sure she sees you interacting with other girls. Either she'll come back to you, or she won't give a damn because it was an in the moment thing. And if the latter is the case, who gives a ****, you've moved on.

Yea I think this is my plan, thanks guys

[ATLDirtyBirds]

Originally Posted by OSUGiants17

Yea I think this is my plan, thanks guys

Don't be awkward in avoiding her (don't break eye contact, etc), but I would just refrain from starting up a conversation with out her being the first to approach.

[OSUGiants17]

Yea sounds good. And knowing her she will approach since she is such a flirty and friendly person. I'm not saying she will throw herself at me like last time, but she will definitely leave a the door cracked.

[JeffSamardzijaIRISH]

Originally Posted by ATLDirtyBirds

Pay very little attention to her. Make sure she sees you interacting with other girls. Either she'll come back to you, or she won't give a damn because it was an in the moment thing. And if the latter is the case, who gives a ****, you've moved on.

Or she'll see you flirting with other girls and think that you're through with her and then not approach you.

You should just find her at the party if you're interested.

[thefalconer]

theres a lock on the door for a reason.

[tjsunstein]

Find her at said party if youre still interested and make sure she knows shes still your priority. Ignoring girls you like doesnt do any good. And by giving her the attention, you get a clear read on the situation. Go from there.

[thefalconer]

Originally Posted by tjsunstein

Find her at said party if youre still interested and make sure she knows shes still your priority. Ignoring girls you like doesnt do any good. And by giving her the attention, you get a clear read on the situation. Go from there.

i think this. playing the whole cool guy routine serves your pride and might not bear fruit for you. while you shouldn't be clingy and weird, you shouldn't not show her any attention in the hope of her coming to you. because what if she doesn't. then you lose my *****.

[tjsunstein]

Dont be a weirdo and make conversation, its the best way to go about talking to any girl. The whole ignoring the girl and making her want you more **** backfires more times than not. And if you do it for your pride, well, then you have a lot more to learn. When did your pride ever suck your dick? The answer is never.

Communicate, and say what you feel.

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by tjsunstein

When did your pride ever suck your dick?

I feel like this should be generational type advice.

[OSUGiants17]

Ight I think I'm just gonna go with something in between. By the way the "when has pride ever sucked your dick" line is genius. Thanks for the help guys. O and I know doors have locks, but not the rooms we were in and the rooms that did have locks all had people in them.

[ATLDirtyBirds]

It's not about pride. If she wants you, she'll find you. As I said, don't go out of your way to avoid her, but definitely don't seek her out. Of course, I'd also be going into this not with the mindset of "hopefully I can hook up with her again", but rather "I hope I can find someone hotter to ****."

[dolphinfan2k5]

I think my girlfriend of two years and I are breaking up. I don't know what to do. She is going to Venezuela for a semester and then back to school in Minneapolis for a final semester while I have a full-time job in Milwaukee. Then she wants to teach English abroad for a year. She doesn't see any way for it to work. She just called and said we need to break up, I know she doesn't want to but thinks we have to. I don't know what to do.

[OSUGiants17]

That's a decision entirely up to you. Long distance stuff is awful, but if you think you can make it work with just a few meetings a year and nothing but phone and webcam chats, more power to ya. If you try that though and it doesnt work out you'll be forced to break-up over the phone which suck, were as if you end it now you can say goodbye, be free to hook-up while she's away and still have her as a slight possibility when she gets back. It will be difficult and unless you feel like she legit could be your wife one day I say break it off, but if you wanna try and make it work go for it.

[tjsunstein]

You're two years in, atleast try it out instead of breaking up right now because:

1. You never want to say 'what if' about a girl you are (or may not be, idk) in love with. Especially of a gf of two years, thats a long time to just say its over.

2. If you do try it, and it doesnt work out then its going to be a lot easier for the both of you to seperate KNOWING that it didnt work out.

3. Maybe you do work out, but you wouldnt know it if you didnt try. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, or something.

[thefalconer]

Originally Posted by tjsunstein

Distance makes the heart grow fonder, or something.

absence makes the heart grow fonder. which means you're gonna miss the **** outta her and turn to alcohol.

[dolphinfan2k5]

Thanks guys, still not really sure what's going to happen. I just don't understand why she doesn't want to at least try.

[49erNation85]

What do you guys think the best approach at going at breaking up a relationship? I don't wanna do it but I do.I think during football is will be hard to go with out since the gal I'm with doesn't care for watching footballl I dunno. Plus she is ready to settle down kind of but I wanna keep going in seasonal / National Park life / working style.

[Hurricanes25]

Originally Posted by 49erNation85

What do you guys think the best approach at going at breaking up a relationship? I don't wanna do it but I do.I think during football is will be hard to go with out since the gal I'm with doesn't care for watching footballl I dunno. Plus she is ready to settle down kind of but I wanna keep going in seasonal / National Park life / working style.

Breaking up with a girl because she doesn't like to watch football sounds ridiculous. Just saying.

[49erNation85]

It is not just the football thing. I wanna still do this seasonal life work , working and living in a National park but she is pretty much done with this kind of work. and I Know I would love to work more places or just live in one year around instead of the real world life style so to speak .

[Stash]

Originally Posted by Hurricanes25

Breaking up with a girl because she doesn't like to watch football sounds ridiculous. Just saying.

I know, right? He's letting her off way too easy. Put that football hating ***** at the bottom of a lake.

[49ersfan_87]

One of my close friends is annoying me. Cliffs

-Meets girl, falls in "love" (respect his feelings still)
-Basically in friendzone with girl, she tells him everything/relationship issues
-Asks her out 3 months ago, says no, not wild enough, but kind of leads him on by saying he's caring and thats the kind of guy she wants to marry
-This gives him hope, and to this day he still feel he has a shot with her (and wants to marry her)

I tried to tell him to get over her, ask him if he wanted to meet new girls, etc. But he refuses to look at new girls (at least in that way) in any setting..school, etc. After a month i realized he still felt that way so i stopped talking about it because what else is there to say?

I know that feel because i had a severe case of one-itis and fell hard for a different girl, even took me almost 2 months to get over the rejection (although i accepted she said no immediately, deluded myself a bit, then went back to accepting). And i thought i was in "love" with her too but now i don't even care about my crush in that way.

Anyways, i'm just kind of annoyed that he's likely going to be waiting around for her and probably missing out on other opportunities for 1 girl who may never give him that chance.

[RCAChainGang]

Yeah dude it is hard to get over one girl you are really attracted to. Seems like this guy needs to back off this friendship. He is just her tool right now. If he backs off and at least tries to pay her less attention and move on then she might wake up feelings she has. That is unlikely, but there is always a chance.

Best for him to cut his losses and get out. I'm not sure there is much you can do for him. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way.

[Brent]

Originally Posted by 49ersfan_87

One of my close friends is annoying me. Cliffs

-Meets girl, falls in "love" (respect his feelings still)
-Basically in friendzone with girl, she tells him everything/relationship issues
-Asks her out 3 months ago, says no, not wild enough, but kind of leads him on by saying he's caring and thats the kind of guy she wants to marry
-This gives him hope, and to this day he still feel he has a shot with her (and wants to marry her)

I tried to tell him to get over her, ask him if he wanted to meet new girls, etc. But he refuses to look at new girls (at least in that way) in any setting..school, etc. After a month i realized he still felt that way so i stopped talking about it because what else is there to say?

I know that feel because i had a severe case of one-itis and fell hard for a different girl, even took me almost 2 months to get over the rejection (although i accepted she said no immediately, deluded myself a bit, then went back to accepting). And i thought i was in "love" with her too but now i don't even care about my crush in that way.

Anyways, i'm just kind of annoyed that he's likely going to be waiting around for her and probably missing out on other opportunities for 1 girl who may never give him that chance.

if a girl says that he is "not wild enough" that's ******* hysterical and she's probably a real POS.

is he not aware that a girl giving him attention doesn't mean she likes him?