Relationship Advice Thread - Page 341

BaLLiN · 10-13-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperPacker

It sounds like you're in, my friend.

I was really taken back by what she said because shes not really affectionate in public, but man...she just seems like a freak.

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Originally Posted by raiderz4life

Let's go crouching tiger, DON'T HIDE THAT DRAGON!!!

lol, i havent had sex in 4 years though. Which is why I'm not nervous but I know theres that doubt in me that I am good at sex. I got in a relationship with a much older girl when i was 16 and she was 24 and my first time she just laid on her back and I felt like I was raping her. We did it a few other times but that was always in my head.

Then idk why but I dated a girl when i was a senior and she was 15 and I was 18, and I almost got to the point, but when i fingered her she wasn't shaven and I was majorly turned off, and she kept pushing my hand back down. I just felt gross.

And there have been other girls, I'm not Adonis or anything but I know I am attractive and have qualities girls like, I just haven't been able to let myself go all the way even though itd be easy to. Just these girls always have one thing that turns me off it seems. Whether its they get drunk and then think I want to have sex with them that way, they dont take care of their bodies up to my standards, they aren't serious about college and careers, one jerked me off and then i got it on the sheets and was trying to infer to her to get off so i could...needless to say we slept on the same sheets and that was the last time I even considered being with her, and other things.

This one's a little different I think, but I am not sure. I just like this one because she is mellow and Im affectionate, she takes control and Ive always liked that, she cares about her career even though I know shes not as intellectual as me we can talk about a lot of things. I do have that lingering thought in my head telling me that I am only in it for they physical aspect and that its really hard to connect emotionally after all the crap ive dealt with not just relationships.

And then theres my ***** (edit: hotdog) and everything, i dont compare or anything but watching porn some of those things are ridiculous and I think I'm average or slightly above average. I just want to be confident going in and then i feel that once i can get a steady sexual relationship I can improve my emotional relationship.

I have never eaten out a girl, or gotten a blowjob. I feel like I crippled my own sexual experiences just because I have been so conservative after how my first experience went.
Edit: I only let girls come to me, I don't chase. Thats what I mean by conservative

Brent · 10-13-2012, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by BaLLiN

I have never eaten out a girl, or gotten a blowjob. I feel like I crippled my own sexual experiences just because I have been so conservative after how my first experience went.

Eating a girl out isn't hard. There are several videos on porn streaming sites that teach good technique haha.

MetSox17 · 10-13-2012, 04:01 PM

You just need to pick up some confidence, and the only way to do that is by having sex. Relax yourself and try not to worry so much about how you'll perform. If you're both young, chances are she doesn't quite know wtf she's doing either, so don't assume she's expecting a hollywood performance. Just do your thing man, let yourself go and enjoy the experience. The more you do it, the better you'll get.

And Brent is right, oral sex on a girl isn't difficult at all. Just watch porn, that's how they do it. Focus on the clitoris, that's it. But i'd recommend you do that only with someone you're completely comfortable with. One bad experience can ruin it for you.

BaLLiN · 10-13-2012, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Brent

Eating a girl out isn't hard. There are several videos on porn streaming sites that teach good technique haha.

I really don't like watching that, but to learn Ill do it i guess.

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

You just need to pick up some confidence, and the only way to do that is by having sex. Relax yourself and try not to worry so much about how you'll perform. If you're both young, chances are she doesn't quite know wtf she's doing either, so don't assume she's expecting a hollywood performance. Just do your thing man, let yourself go and enjoy the experience. The more you do it, the better you'll get.

Thats what I feel, but I do expect the hollywood performance from myself so that I don't have the same predicament from my first time where I felt like a necrophiliac

Raiderz4Life · 10-13-2012, 04:07 PM

I once "dated" a girl when I was 13 and she was 17/18 and that was my first. Good times haha.

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Originally Posted by BaLLiN

lol, i havent had sex in 4 years though. Which is why I'm not nervous but I know theres that doubt in me that I am good at sex. I got in a relationship with a much older girl when i was 16 and she was 24 and my first time she just laid on her back and I felt like I was raping her. We did it a few other times but that was always in my head.

I'm sorry but that just made me laugh.

Just listen to Brent and MS on this one. I will pretty much just echo what they say haha

DON'T listen to MOTH.

jballa838 · 10-13-2012, 04:09 PM

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yeah and all that would prove is that MOTH is a complete p.o.s.

He's our Tucker Max (obligatory MOTH "haha")

BaLLiN · 10-13-2012, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by raiderz4life

I once "dated" a girl when I was 13 and she was 17/18 and that was my first. Good times haha.

I'm sorry but that just made me laugh.

Just listen to Brent and MS on this one. I will pretty much just echo what they say haha

DON'T listen to MOTH.

yeah me and the 24 yr old didnt actually date, she kept it secret bc obviously it wasnt acceptable, she was a swim coach at the pool i lifeguarded at. And thats legit how it felt, she closed her eyes, and we were still kissing but it was like her form of sex is just getting raped.

MetSox17 · 10-13-2012, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by BaLLiN

I really don't like watching that, but to learn Ill do it i guess.

Thats what I feel, but I do expect the hollywood performance from myself so that I don't have the same predicament from my first time where I felt like a necrophiliac

Well unless you're a natural (which you probably aren't), your first few times back in the game are gonna be just 'meh'. But again, she probably doesn't know this, and you really don't need to explain yourself either. You have to learn to manage your expectations.. After four years of celibacy you aren't gonna be studding it up like a porn star, so just accept that. But the more you do it, the better you'll get, so if she wants you and you want her, get to it. If she's coming on to you strongly, i'm positive she'll be more enthusiastic about having sex than your previous experience.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:13 PM

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yeah and all that would prove is that MOTH is a complete p.o.s.

Ouuuuuuuuuch. lol.

And there arent too many clubs down here. Its a hot spot...Ive seen her there several times. But instead of ignoring eachother this time, she came right up to me. I dont ******* know.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

SuperPacker · 10-13-2012, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by raiderz4life

DON'T listen to MOTH.

This is very important.

ncst8fan83 · 10-13-2012, 04:15 PM

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Well, from what I've gathered (I feel like a ******* anthropologist when I am sitting at lunch), the big thing is having a kid. Once these ladies have a kid, it's as if they stop being sexual. It's scary, to be frank.

I can confirm this. It's usually not a lack of a sex drive though. It's mostly the fact that you spend ALL ******* DAY LONG taking care of a screaming baby or a needy two year old (or in my wife's case, both). By the time you get it bed, you're just really freaking tired. Plus, there's always the chance that you create another little demon, which costs a crazy amount of money. It's way more complicated than get married, have a kid, no sex. But that's the basic timeline, unfortunately.

Giantsfan1080 · 10-13-2012, 04:15 PM

I like how this turned into the sex advice thread. Everyone has grown up on NFLDC.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Brent

Eating a girl out isn't hard. There are several videos on porn streaming sites that teach good technique haha.

You'd be surprised how many guys are completely clueless. I have a lot of female friends these days. And it's a pretty constant bitching about it. I pride myself on it. haha. Not to get too vulgar, but i enjoy doing it. A lot of guys just cant even bring themselves to do it.

Giantsfan1080 · 10-13-2012, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Ouuuuuuuuuch. lol.

And there arent too many clubs down here. Its a hot spot...Ive seen her there several times. But instead of ignoring eachother this time, she came right up to me. I dont ******* know.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

Holy crap I knew a Dan Marino from middle school and pop warner. Can their be multiple Dan Marino's in Jersey?

Raiderz4Life · 10-13-2012, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Ouuuuuuuuuch. lol.

And there arent too many clubs down here. Its a hot spot...Ive seen her there several times. But instead of ignoring eachother this time, she came right up to me. I dont ******* know.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

I think the Friend's ex rule has a time limit tbh. I know I couldn't care less if any of my friends wanted to date any of my exes. Now at least, cuz I'm past all the moping.

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Well unless you're a natural (which you probably aren't), your first few times back in the game are gonna be just 'meh'. But again, she probably doesn't know this, and you really don't need to explain yourself either. You have to learn to manage your expectations.. After four years of celibacy you aren't gonna be studding it up like a porn star, so just accept that. But the more you do it, the better you'll get, so if she wants you and you want her, get to it. If she's coming on to you strongly, i'm positive she'll be more enthusiastic about having sex than your previous experience.

I've learned in my short years...that...really the first time with any girl won't be all that great because neither of you really know the other person enough to know what buttons to push. If I can I like to go in a 2nd time and usually its better.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:17 PM

M.O.T.H. knows sex...now relationships...he's a **** up.

ncst8fan83 · 10-13-2012, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Ouuuuuuuuuch. lol.

And there arent too many clubs down here. Its a hot spot...Ive seen her there several times. But instead of ignoring eachother this time, she came right up to me. I dont ******* know.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

I've only hooked up with a friend's ex one time. It was super weird and neither of us could do it again. We're all 3 good friends still. Just weird taking it up that level, even if she's into you and you're into her.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:17 PM

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Holy crap I knew a Dan Marino from middle school and pop warner. Can their be multiple Dan Marino's in Jersey?

He played in my general area, he played for the town over from me. How awesome is that, though?

SuperPacker · 10-13-2012, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

Ouuuuuuuuuch. lol.

And there arent too many clubs down here. Its a hot spot...Ive seen her there several times. But instead of ignoring eachother this time, she came right up to me. I dont ******* know.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

This is where it becomes a no. If it was nothing serious, and you can actually see it going somewhere, i'd ask them first and make sure.

Splat · 10-13-2012, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

And I got a question for you guys...I know where I stand, but what about you guys? Friends ex gfs...they're off limits to me. I havent found a situation yet, where I've strayed from that. I got word that my buddy, who's name is actually "Dan Marino", his ex thought I was looking really good last night and she's got a little crush. Very cute girl, but I just cant do it. My buddy was like in love with this girl. Only dated for a year, but still. Thoughts in similar situations?

Don't ******* do it.

Raiderz4Life · 10-13-2012, 04:19 PM

O yea...if he was like...in love with her...don't..go there....just..don't.

ncst8fan83 · 10-13-2012, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by M.O.T.H.

You'd be surprised how many guys are completely clueless. I have a lot of female friends these days. And it's a pretty constant bitching about it. I pride myself on it. haha. Not to get too vulgar, but i enjoy doing it. A lot of guys just cant even bring themselves to do it.

If you don't do this, then you're just doing it wrong. Boring lays always start with no foreplay. The longer the foreplay, the better the trip to your destination.

SuperPacker · 10-13-2012, 04:20 PM

If one of my friends dated my ex, some serious **** would be going down.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:21 PM

I wouldnt have anyway...I'm actually pretty strict with the friends ex's type thing.

M.O.T.H. · 10-13-2012, 04:21 PM

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If one of my friends dated my ex some serious **** would be going down.

If any of my close friends even kissed my latest ex, some serious **** would be going down. Which is really sad, cause she's proving to be kind of a ****, but still. ****. I was in love with that girl. 100%. Whoops.