Relationship Advice Thread

[SickwithIt1010]

You should have asked for a tit pic after the voice mail.

[BigDawg819]

Originally Posted by Da-Phins

Yep, since I've been back visiting my ex, I've been down in the dumps. Really didnt expect to be like this but whatever. Im in a worse mood now then when I left the first time.

I rooted for you man to buck the trend. I'm sorry that it didn't happen. Do what's best for you and hopefully you learn a hard lesson that leads you to greener pastures.

[Brent]

So, that girl messaged me tonight and asked if I wanted to hang out. We ended up banging. And, by the way she was hugging me when I left, I am pretty sure this is going to be a relationship. Ha, so **** you, 2011, ******* worst year ever!

[BuckeyeDan17]

Originally Posted by pierce2walker

That's probably reassurance that you did the right thing

No doubt. I mean the **** I pulled definitely warranted the comments, but its a bit late for rampages, and drunk angry voicemails at this age is beyond immature.

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by Brent

So, that girl messaged me tonight and asked if I wanted to hang out. We ended up banging. And, by the way she was hugging me when I left, I am pretty sure this is going to be a relationship. Ha, so **** you, 2011, ******* worst year ever!

Just make sure you don't rush into it bruh. Keep it the way it's been going and make sure you move at a pace that's comfortable for her. After all, you're pretty much winning already, you're getting laid on the reg. Good luck!

/mefistbumpsbrent

[Brent]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

Just make sure you don't rush into it bruh.

Not worried about that. I think she has far more reservations about a relationship than I do.

[TitanHope]

Originally Posted by Brent

Not worried about that. I think she has far more reservations about a relationship than I do.

....Niiiiice.

[BaLLiN]

Originally Posted by Brent

So, that girl messaged me tonight and asked if I wanted to hang out. We ended up banging. And, by the way she was hugging me when I left, I am pretty sure this is going to be a relationship. Ha, so **** you, 2011, ******* worst year ever!

YAY BRENT!
*pops congratulatory champagne*

[BaLLiN]

Ok so things are getting really well, we've made plans to see the Giants-Eagles game (its probably gunna be terrible), which she is coming to my house for two days (probably 3 nights). I haven't told my mom about her, and honestly i am sortof concerned but i feel like it will go well.

I find it occur more and more often that we are making plans to do things in the future, like see a duke game, go to the beach, go to new york, spend new years together, etc. I like it, but it concerns me because she texts other guys and says shes talking about sports or that they have been good friends, as well as her ex, and its concerning. I feel less challenged because our physical relationship is probably the best shes had. I think i sealed the deal with giving her oral. (how is it supposed to taste? It was salty, probably from sweat, but weird i guess.)

So basically I am asking, is it normal for her to text other guys (she tells me when she does, and sometimes i feel like its because she thinks i text other girls and get attention from them and shes jealous) and is it normal for me to feel jealous and question the validity of our relationship? Cause I feel like she should be happy that I am trying to be cool with her texting her ex and other guys (one is her friend and another she just did for the duke game as far as I know).

[Raiderz4Life]

Well, I'm officially in s relationship now. But still haven't gotten past just make out sessions yet. Keep pushing the boundaries a little more every time though and she seems to be responding well lol

[pierce2walker]

How does one successfully push the boundaries, but only get makeout sessions?

But congrats regardless.

[Raiderz4Life]

Originally Posted by pierce2walker

How does one successfully push the boundaries, but only get makeout sessions?

But congrats regardless.

I meant like, letting my hands roam a little more while making out that sorta stuff. Don't wanna push too hard and it backfire. Don't think I've ever dealt with anyone so conservatively though, I used to just swing for the fences and hope I hit the homer.

[MetSox17]

pics or

[Rosebud]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

pics or

This. I feel like people aren't respecting the new standard I set.

[killxswitch]

Originally Posted by Rosebud

This. I feel like people aren't respecting the new standard I set.

What standard is that?

[Da-Phins]

Guys I tell ya, I got it bad(and I do mean bad) for my ex. Your right I shouldnt of went to go visit her the other week. Just making me miss her more and its driving me ******* insane. I cant get her out of my head and I've noticed I've even started to get a little whiny on FB. My man hood is is slowly being taken away from me and it ******* sucks.

I mean i really love this girl. I would do anything for her. As I've said before, she doesnt want a relationship, doesnt know if she will for a long time but if she does, she wants another chance with me. We text every day and a couple times during the week we will talk on the phone for a bit. I want to wait for her but I dunno how long to. I just need something to file the gap and the pain Im feeling but I dunno what. I've been thinking of trying to pick up a time consuming hobby or hell, even join the army. Just sucks walking in my shoes every day and feeling the way I feel.

[BaLLiN]

Da-Phins, I feel ya. Same position. Putting off a relationship just seems to me that my girl is trying to say to herself that she waited and is over her ex, and that is the reason why she could be in a relationship with me when she feels the time is right. Its stupid, time is not an issue, if two people feel that good about each other who cares about the time in between?

I am sorry for getting off topic, but I would definitely suggest a hobby. Physical activity is always good because you are putting your all into it and not thinking or interpreting on a deeper level. I wish you the best.

[brat316]

should go to strip club and try and pick one up like a member on this board does.

he has been with like 3, by that i mean in a relationship.

[vidae]

You've been hung up on this girl for way too long dude. Anyone who makes you feel like this just isn't worth it.

But other people have been saying this for over a year now and you're not listening to them so why would you listen to me.

[JeffSamardzijaIRISH]

I think it's time to bring this back into the thread.

Especially for you, Phins.

[Rosebud]

Tonight was a glorious night. I am back to my studly self.

[Rob S]

Originally Posted by Rosebud

Tonight was a glorious night. I am back to my studly self.

Germans? Nice.

[Mufasa]

Originally Posted by vidae

But other people have been saying this for over a year now and you're not listening to them so why would you listen to me.

Because you're beautiful

[Rosebud]

Originally Posted by Rob S

Germans? Nice.

What I'm really gunna miss if I don't move back in January is beautiful girls hitting on me, amongst them I got to suck some face with the tallest n most long legged blonde I've ever even spoken to. For the first time in my life I got to be the one who gets leaned down to n it was awesome. I still can't get over her legs, n that after getting a good hour of dancing, ass-grabbery n ear/neck nibbling from this other cutie. Man, the homeland really did it's best to make a great pitch for me to come back.

Plus Murica really pissed me off today, as I got stuck in customs for over an hour when I landed in O'Haire, because apparently my misdeamonor pot charges from 4 years ago will continue to set off flags until I become a US Citizen.

[BigDawg819]

Originally Posted by Da-Phins

Guys I tell ya, I got it bad(and I do mean bad) for my ex. Your right I shouldnt of went to go visit her the other week. Just making me miss her more and its driving me ******* insane. I cant get her out of my head and I've noticed I've even started to get a little whiny on FB. My man hood is is slowly being taken away from me and it ******* sucks.

I mean i really love this girl. I would do anything for her. As I've said before, she doesnt want a relationship, doesnt know if she will for a long time but if she does, she wants another chance with me. We text every day and a couple times during the week we will talk on the phone for a bit. I want to wait for her but I dunno how long to. I just need something to file the gap and the pain Im feeling but I dunno what. I've been thinking of trying to pick up a time consuming hobby or hell, even join the army. Just sucks walking in my shoes every day and feeling the way I feel.

I know where you are and hell right there with you this very instant. The unknown factors will drive you mad and ultimately lead into a nasty depression. Walk away. Delete the number. And slowly begin to heal. Do not make any life changing decisions for awhile. If you love her that much and she's pulling this nonsense then she doesn't feel the same way towards you. And that is unacceptable.

I know what I'm suggesting seems impossible. I know it sounds like I don't "know" or "understand" her and/or the situation. But I do. All too well. I'm living it right now. And I did exactly what I'm telling you to do. I feel like I'm betraying her. I feel like I'm giving up when I swore to myself I never would.

Its not giving up, its choosing oneself over madness. We do not know what the future holds. But if these ladies don't want to be apart of our lives right now then we must remain a part of our lives by living them.

I won't dare bore you with any tired cliche, I'll just be blunt. Move on without her. If some where down the road your paths cross, you deal with it them. Right now you can't destroy yourself with some warped sense of loyalty. If you don't make the hard decision now, you'll only slip away until one day you wake up wondering why the hell you let this girl destroy you.