Relationship Advice Thread

[Vikes99ej]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

-Don't wear douchey apparel.

Very key component.

Oh I know that, I'm not buff enough to wear that **** ****. These days I just wear a button-up or a hoodie with my Chucks.

[bsaza2358]

Hoodie? F that noise. Wear nice clothes that show off your assets. Hoodie screams "doofus who has no idea how to get chicks"

[Vikes99ej]

Originally Posted by bsaza2358

Hoodie? F that noise. Wear nice clothes that show off your assets. Hoodie screams "doofus who has no idea how to get chicks"

Well, I want to wear something nicer, like maybe a button-up, a random tie, and some jeans, and then everyone tells me it looks like I'm trying too hard. And I have about three t-shirts I'd consider "going out material." All the rest are college or sports related. I usually just go with my gut. If I'm feelin' extra confident I'll put something a little more stylish on, but if I'm the DD or I feel like ****, I'll just throw whatever on.

[aLARGEtopHat]

Stop wearing chucks please... Along with Hollister, quicksilver, checkered vans, et cetera.

[Rob S]

It completely depends where your going. Jeans and shoes are the keys tho, people get far too caught up in shirts.

Can't tell you how many times I see someone in a nice button up, but crappy light jeans and worn sneakers. I always go nice jeans, shoes and then vary shirt choice depending where I am going. You can get away with a standard black jockey v neck at plenty of great Manhattan places with the rights jean/shoes combo.

[Shiver]

Random observation: I must have a thing for tall girls. Every girl I've been interested in was at least as tall as me, taller with high heels. I'm 5'9" so I am not exactly a midget.

[Ravens1991]

Yo Vikes, add CONFIDENCE to your list. That is the most important part IMO.


I have seen a lot of goofy looking guys pull chicks out of there league by being confident and making the girl think that he is the coolest guy on this planet.

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by aLARGEtopHat

Stop wearing chucks please... Along with Hollister, quicksilver, checkered vans, et cetera.

Agreed. tenchar

[Sniper]

Toss me some ideas for what to get my girlfriend for our seventh anniversary. No jewelry. Go!

I'm thinking of taking her on a trip.

[SwagU]

There is nothing wrong with dressing up a bit depending on where you are going, and if there is a pretty good chance you are going to be talking to some chicks. Its always good to stand out from the rest of the dudes a bit. Trust me chicks really anaylze your clothes and style, before even getting to know you they try to picture what you are like from what you are wearing. Ive learned chicks really look at shoes and watches, but they love seeing a guy that dresses up a bit.

[VoteLynnSwan]

Originally Posted by SwagU

There is nothing wrong with dressing up a bit depending on where you are going, and if there is a pretty good chance you are going to be talking to some chicks. Its always good to stand out from the rest of the dudes a bit. Trust me chicks really anaylze your clothes and style, before even getting to know you they try to picture what you are like from what you are wearing. Ive learned chicks really look at shoes and watches, but they love seeing a guy that dresses up a bit.

I analyze every girl I see... I can pretty well tell whether or not someone is worth talking to based on their attire, and the way they conduct themselves. Image is everything, especially in a bar type scene.

I would never overdress, but at least put a little effort in, that's my notion on the matter.

[VUBlacknGold]

Originally Posted by Sniper

Toss me some ideas for what to get my girlfriend for our seventh anniversary. No jewelry. Go!

I'm thinking of taking her on a trip.

Get a tattoo that says Property Of *Girlfriends Name* above your junk, she'll love it lol. But seriously, a trip sounds nice, id say somewhere cozy or coastal, those always work, try to bring each other closer, since its a special moment. Good luck with what you choose. I got this lil place I like to go in Cali called Cayucos, its a beautiful beach town. Also congrats on the great relationship

[Brent]

on the earlier attire topic:

dress in a way that would attract the type of girl you are into. if you dress like you are a high schooler, you will get stupid and immature girls... if any at all.

[BlindSite]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

Agreed. tenchar

I had a chick come up to me in a bar and go "Oh my god, you're wearing chucks, **** yeah" and my mate's girlfriends say they're better than leather dress shoes or skate shoes, so no. I've had it reinforced by females that chucks are fine, same with adidas kicks.

If I'm going for more dressed up I had some *** dude at the store help me pick out nice dress shoes.

In fact, if you're not sure, just go into a shop and find a *** dude they'll be able to find you good clothes.

Once you go ***, you'll have awesome an wardrobe.

[ccB]

I got a chicks number at school today and I was wearing a hanes v neck, cargo shorts, and flip flops, what you are wearing is important to a degree (depends mostly where you are at) but what's more important is how you carry yourself, attacking the situation with confidence, and being able to hold a conversation with them about things chicks care about. If you are still turned down just tell them they are fat and not that hot anyway and you will ruin their day.

[MetSox17]

If you're gonna take blinside's strategy for purchasing clothes, use it as an opportunity to talk to a hot chick while you're at it. Find the hottest female working at the store and ask them to help you buy clothes, even if you don't really need the help.

As to what CCB said, it's the truth. If they're being all bitches about you trying to talk to them, just ruin their night by insulting them. 99% of females are self conscious about their appearance, so hit em where it hurts!

[aLARGEtopHat]

Here is all one needs to start a wardrobe:

The main keys are: No branded t-shirts, square toed dress shoes, and fit matters way over brand.

One Oxford Blue cotton shirt:


Some random colored plain t-shirts:


Navy blue and Khaki shorts, no one wears cargo shorts anymore:


Some Levis 511's or 514's in dark colors:


Boat shoes are always nice, never get the *** new designed ones:


Some kind of van type shoe (Generic Surplus/Pro-keds):

[BlindSite]

Originally Posted by MetSox17

If you're gonna take blinside's strategy for purchasing clothes, use it as an opportunity to talk to a hot chick while you're at it. Find the hottest female working at the store and ask them to help you buy clothes, even if you don't really need the help.

As to what CCB said, it's the truth. If they're being all bitches about you trying to talk to them, just ruin their night by insulting them. 99% of females are self conscious about their appearance, so hit em where it hurts!

It's spelled with a "t" ;) nothing to do with football vernacular.

Yeah it can be a good way to talk to women too if you're still ****** at it because even if there's no chance of you hooking up it's a good chance just to get comfortable being witty and having a conversation with someone you're not going to ****.

*** dudes I've found will be more honest about something that doesn't work though.

Then again talking to hot chicks is talking to hot chicks. Either way, if you're not sure what you should be wearing, go to a ******* clothing store on a non-busy day and take your time. I feel self conscious picking out clothes, everyone does, but take your medicine once in a big swoop and it's over quick enough.

Originally Posted by aLARGEtopHat

Here is all one needs to start a wardrobe:

The main keys are: No branded t-shirts, square toed dress shoes, and fit matters way over brand. images removed for size

Yeah I'd agree with this in theory. I find a lot of it is about where you live and whats in style where you are.

I'd look out of place in a pair of khaki's with boat shoes and a dressy shirt if I were at a bbq in lieu of boardies, any t-shirt and thongs (flip flops). Dress for the occasion.

Must haves though:
Good dress shoes
Good casual shoes (I like the vans)
when it comes to casual shoes pick ones that can go with shorts or with jeans if you've got to pick just one pair.

Expensive jeans are a must, also buy a light jacket (I like m65 field jackets) Good cut for my build.

T-Shirts, brandless is good, same with ones without stupid slogans or jokes on them, but I've got a few shirts just for poker nights and **** like band shirts and surf brands, basically it's just cheap stuff that looks good that I wear when not chasing poon.

A decent button down shirt is a must too though.

[7-11]

Originally Posted by BlindSite

I'd look out of place in a pair of khaki's with boat shoes and a dressy shirt if I were at a bbq in lieu of boardies, any t-shirt and thongs (flip flops). Dress for the occasion.

haha exactly, my dad may be able to get away with khaki's and boat shoes but i'm not too sure i'd be able to go anywhere i know people without being laughed into submission.

[Caddy]

It must be an Aussie thing because my old man rocks the boat shoes too and he is 50 odd.

[MetSox17]

Originally Posted by aLARGEtopHat

Navy blue and Khaki shorts, no one wears cargo shorts anymore:



Boat shoes are always nice, never get the *** new designed ones:

Those two put together give you the douchey frat boy look.

[BigDawg819]

Originally Posted by aLARGEtopHat

Here is all one needs to start a wardrobe:

The main keys are: No branded t-shirts, square toed dress shoes, and fit matters way over brand.

One Oxford Blue cotton shirt:


Some random colored plain t-shirts:


Navy blue and Khaki shorts, no one wears cargo shorts anymore:


Some Levis 511's or 514's in dark colors:


Boat shoes are always nice, never get the *** new designed ones:


Some kind of van type shoe (Generic Surplus/Pro-keds):

The fact that you think any of this attire is acceptable mortifies me.

[Ravens1991]

guys how do you feel about wearing polo shirts???

[MetSox17]

I wear polo shirts pretty often, mostly with jeans. Don't really use them to go out, but for school, or for going to get a beer at a bar they're perfect.

[619]

I dunno man ..I really question some of your guys' wardrobes (not you MetSox). It's okay to buy expensive brand name wear ..just don't have it be from Hollister, A & F or AE. I'll admit to having worn their clothing in the past, and sometimes still do pull out an AE shirt from time to time, but buying random colored plain t-shirts for the sake of it makes no sense.

Lately I've found myself liking this place called Banana Republic - kinda pricey for someone my age (20), though one has to remember quality>quantity, and therefore it is a place worth checking out. Girls can definitely notice a very well-dressed man from afar, I can assure you this speaking from experience, the rest is up to you and not only how you carry yourself, but a conversation (with confidence, candor and wit).

Confidence is number one, though, and it's something that's gotta come from within, especially if public-speaking does not come naturally, and that's actually okay as it didn't at first with me (during my younger days). Just maintain a "what's the worst that could happen" attitude, which is what I do, and you'd be surprised how far that line of rationality can take you in life. This last part is mainly for you, Vikes.