Relationship Advice Thread - Page 271

Sportsfan486 · 03-18-2011, 03:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Ravens1991

I debated it until i realized she is actually a nice/cool girl. I mean she isnt gf material she is a senior and im a sophomore at college. But she is def fine for a formal date.

....why does that mean she's not gf material? Older women kick ass. Don't use it as an excuse.

Ravens1991 · 03-18-2011, 08:01 AM

She is graduating in 2 months and i will never see her. She will go off into the real world and move out to pittsburgh or whereever. Im not gonna do a long distance relationship.

JF4 · 03-18-2011, 12:09 PM

on to the next one ravens

Vikes99ej · 03-19-2011, 02:58 PM

Ever end a night thinking, "Damn, I should have kissed her"?

A Perfect Score · 03-19-2011, 03:04 PM

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Ever end a night thinking, "Damn, I should have kissed her"?

I've had a few of those moments myself. I was in a serious, long term relationship with this girl right after I got out of high school. I took a year off, she was younger and was still finishing high school so we were in a weird place as a couple. I ended up falling pretty hard for this girl at my work at some point, which eventually led to the end of my previous relationship, but nothing ever developed as I went off to school and so did the girl from my work. But we had one of those moments where you can just tell you're supposed to kiss, but I ended up not going in for it because I did the whole "This isn't how you want to start something new" sort of things, since I figured I owed it to myself and the other girl to end things properly. Needless to say, still one of the biggest regrets of my life. I'm still in touch with the girl from my work and we're still friends, but its one of those "Oh what could have been" situations.

MetSox17 · 03-19-2011, 03:15 PM

Just mentioning this because someone i know happens to do this and it irritates the **** out of me...

What do you all think of couples sharing one facebook account? The name will read "John & Jane Doe" or whatever.

I think it's ******** beyond belief.

GB12 · 03-19-2011, 03:20 PM

I think that's really stupid. It's even worse if it's in addition to individual accounts.

Sportsfan486 · 03-19-2011, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Just mentioning this because someone i know happens to do this and it irritates the **** out of me...

What do you all think of couples sharing one facebook account? The name will read "John & Jane Doe" or whatever.

I think it's ******** beyond belief.

Instead of simply dropping them from Facebook I'd post to their wall "Hey guys, had a blast with the threesome last night! Watching you blast John with the strap-on was awesome!"

Aka yes, it's irritating as ****.

Ravens1991 · 03-22-2011, 10:20 AM

i only noticed older ppl who dont understand our generation social norms do that.

MetSox17 · 03-22-2011, 10:54 AM

No, i mention it because there's about three couples i know, that are around my age, that do that.

Ravens1991 · 03-22-2011, 11:11 AM

yea thats beat as hell then.

Anyway that girl I was telling you about is a complete mess when intoxicated. Like worst person i have ever seen. Im thinking about taking someone else to formal but IDK how i should tell her because girls love formals and she might be upset. Any suggestions?

MetSox17 · 03-22-2011, 11:17 AM

Oh, hell will be raised, so be prepared. If you don't wanna deal with the whole hell raising thing, just make sure she doesn't drink? Or you can go ahead and mention it right now that she needs to learn how to act like an adult because you can't be having that kind of behavior at a formal. If she gets all butthurt then you can slip in the "well if you don't want to, i can easily find someone else to go with".

princefielder28 · 03-22-2011, 11:36 AM

Ok, fun story here...

There's a girl who I have all my classes with and while things didn't work out between in terms of a relationship we're pretty good friends. She's now chasing a guy, who lives my brother so I hear plenty about him, and part of this story is that he's womanizer and can play girls like nobody's business. I told her this one night when she was drunk and called me at 230 in the morning after they had just had a night together and she didn't believe me. It's been two weeks since that and she thinks she dating this guy while he's just using her. Do I bring it up again or let her get crushed and learn from her ignorance???

Vikes99ej · 03-22-2011, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by princefielder28

Ok, fun story here...

There's a girl who I have all my classes with and while things didn't work out between in terms of a relationship we're pretty good friends. She's now chasing a guy, who lives my brother so I hear plenty about him, and part of this story is that he's womanizer and can play girls like nobody's business. I told her this one night when she was drunk and called me at 230 in the morning after they had just had a night together and she didn't believe me. It's been two weeks since that and she thinks she dating this guy while he's just using her. Do I bring it up again or let her get crushed and learn from her ignorance???

I'd just stay out of this situation and let her learn.

killxswitch · 03-22-2011, 11:45 AM

You tried to help and she rejected it so you don't need to do anything else.

djp · 03-22-2011, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by princefielder28

Ok, fun story here...

There's a girl who I have all my classes with and while things didn't work out between in terms of a relationship we're pretty good friends. She's now chasing a guy, who lives my brother so I hear plenty about him, and part of this story is that he's womanizer and can play girls like nobody's business. I told her this one night when she was drunk and called me at 230 in the morning after they had just had a night together and she didn't believe me. It's been two weeks since that and she thinks she dating this guy while he's just using her. Do I bring it up again or let her get crushed and learn from her ignorance???

Just let it go. Some people need to learn first hand. Just be there to support when she posts her status update on facebook "OMG **** GUYS!!!!!!!!!" It's just a matter of time.

princefielder28 · 03-22-2011, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Vikes99ej

I'd just stay out of this situation and let her learn.

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Originally Posted by killxswitch

You tried to help and she rejected it so you don't need to do anything else.

Thanks, that what I assumed...i'm really trying to cut off communication with her in general because she uses me as her crutch when she's between relationships, and this is without a physical relationship so i'm not getting anything good out of it...so it's pretty much be here at my convenience

Ravens1991 · 03-22-2011, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Oh, hell will be raised, so be prepared. If you don't wanna deal with the whole hell raising thing, just make sure she doesn't drink? Or you can go ahead and mention it right now that she needs to learn how to act like an adult because you can't be having that kind of behavior at a formal. If she gets all butthurt then you can slip in the "well if you don't want to, i can easily find someone else to go with".

ya she was the first one hammered, and she was dancing by herself screaming the lyrics to all the songs. Im probably gonna get drunk and dance like a idiot too but she takes it to an unimaginable level. The 21 year olds went to the bar before and apparently she made out w/ 3 guys. To make matters worse some of her best friends are coming. The thing is I dont have a idea of who else to take. So Im gonna work on that and if worse comes to worse ill cut her off from the bar.

Ravens1991 · 03-22-2011, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by princefielder28

Ok, fun story here...

There's a girl who I have all my classes with and while things didn't work out between in terms of a relationship we're pretty good friends. She's now chasing a guy, who lives my brother so I hear plenty about him, and part of this story is that he's womanizer and can play girls like nobody's business. I told her this one night when she was drunk and called me at 230 in the morning after they had just had a night together and she didn't believe me. It's been two weeks since that and she thinks she dating this guy while he's just using her. Do I bring it up again or let her get crushed and learn from her ignorance???

You could risk your friendship telling her that she is getting cheated on. Id say keep out of it. Besides people always do what they think is best regardless of what relationship advice they get. I honestly think at least 80% of advice on here is thrown away despite guys having experience in the same situation.

Vikes99ej · 03-22-2011, 12:51 PM

I might be a pessimist, but situations like this is why I don't like being friends with attractive females. Part of it might be my immaturity, but it's just too tough not getting agitated.

Jensen · 03-22-2011, 12:51 PM

Ok, so this is kind of a giant clusterfuck, so be prepared.

I am a sophomore in college now and have been dating a girl from my hometown for almost three years now. We've generally been good together, but lately we've been having a lot of issues. It's sort of a long distance relationship because we go to different schools and only see each other once every three weeks or so. There is a lot of trust involved that neither one of us does something to **** up the relationship, so that's another complication. She doesn't like that I drink and gets upset at me every time she finds out that I do. Lately she's been really sketchy...one of my friends that goes to the same school as her said she has seen her out on the weekend with the same guy the past three weekends and that they were really close and flirting. She also hasn't been talking to me as much lately. She's really affectionate though (not much PDA, but some) and being with her almost three years now I don't really know what it's like to be without her.

Now, I met a girl this semester at my school in my accounting class and we've been hanging out more and more as the semester goes on. I think she's out of my league and I obviously find her attractive, but I think she's shown interest lately. She's in a sorority and on the track and field team. She has a boyfriend, but he's in a frat and is a complete douchebag, and she wants to dump him she just doesn't know how to do it yet. She always initiates chats through texts or FB messages. She texted me about 20 mins. ago that she was breaking up with her boyfriend because she likes somebody else. This was our exact text convo:

Her: "hey i'm breaking up with (name) today...finally decided to end it. i have my eyes set on someone else now :)"

Me: "sorry to hear that, but u knew it was coming. do i know the guy?"

Her: "umm...yeah, he's nice and cute and we hang out all the time!! we also have accounting together :)"

I'm the only guy that sits next to her, or even near her for that matter, in accounting and talks to/hangs out with her outside of class. Where do I go from here? I really like this girl, but should I break off the relationship with my girlfriend for her? We would obviously see each other more often and she appears to be a lot less sketchy than my current girlfriend. She's soft-spoken, intelligent, and cute and she doesn't try to draw attention to herself like my current girlfriend does by dressing slutty or stuff like that. Should I be this quick to just jump into another relationship?

Downside to this is that my current girlfriend and I have a lot of mutual friends and I feel like this could be very complicated back home for the summer.

I'm just looking for some advice on how to handle the situation just so I can get a different perspective of it other than my own. Thanks for any help guys.

killxswitch · 03-22-2011, 02:44 PM

From the perspective of an outsider it seems pretty obvious that you should break up with the old GF. At the very least make it so you still see each other but also see other people. Most long distance relationships don't work and it sounds like yours already isn't. The best thing to do is acknowledge it and move on especially if you have a new prospect that you can see more than once every 3 weeks. To everyone but you it will probably seem pretty obvious what you need to do. I'm not trying to be mean. I am just being straight with you. Your uncertainty about the situation is likely a result of you being so close to it. If you can distance yourself from it a bit and really look at it, I think you will see the right way to go.

Sportsfan486 · 03-22-2011, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by killxswitch

From the perspective of an outsider it seems pretty obvious that you should break up with the old GF. At the very least make it so you still see each other but also see other people. Most long distance relationships don't work and it sounds like yours already isn't. The best thing to do is acknowledge it and move on especially if you have a new prospect that you can see more than once every 3 weeks. To everyone but you it will probably seem pretty obvious what you need to do. I'm not trying to be mean. I am just being straight with you. Your uncertainty about the situation is likely a result of you being so close to it. If you can distance yourself from it a bit and really look at it, I think you will see the right way to go.

Agreed. It sounds like you two have moved apart romantically but still care about the other so don't want to hurt them.

Call her up. Have a heart to heart and see if you two can't be friends. Just tell her you think the distance makes romance impossible and you're both in college and need to live your lives, but you'd like to know she's doing okay from time to time. Sounds like she's either seeing this other dude or wants to anyway, so it should be amicable.

ATLDirtyBirds · 03-22-2011, 04:57 PM

I think that one is pretty obvious. Hop on with the new girl, and keep ******* the other girl every 3rd week you see her.

JoeJoeBrown · 03-22-2011, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Jensen

Ok, so this is kind of a giant clusterfuck, so be prepared.

I'm just looking for some advice on how to handle the situation just so I can get a different perspective of it other than my own. Thanks for any help guys.

Have as gentle of a parting of ways with the old GF ASAP. She is cheating on you already. If not physically, then definitely emotionally. Just end it nicely and move on.

It sounds like this other chick is really into you. Don't mess that up by trying to play the game of juggling two relationships at the same time. It's not worth it.