Relationship Advice Thread - Page 280

georgiafan · 09-08-2011, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Hines

So it's official, my ex is the definition of a crazy *****.

what happend?

In the words of Jamey Johnson in his great song "women there all crazy ome hide it well and some just let it show"

Raiderz4Life · 09-08-2011, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Hines

So it's official, my ex is the definition of a crazy *****.

They're all ****** crazy man. Its just diff levels of crazy. There's:
least crazy-light green
somewhat crazy-green crazy-light yellow
pretty crazy-yellow
real crazy-light red
bat **** crazy-red

Hines · 09-08-2011, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by georgiafan

what happend?

In the words of Jamey Johnson in his great song "women there all crazy ome hide it well and some just let it show"

We broke up like two months ago and I mean it was hard and I tried to get her back, but I just wanted to be friends. Well **** was meh for a month or so with all her friends telling her I said this, I said that, etc. Well lately she's been telling everyone she never loved me and bashing me all the time and just stupid crazy ***** ****. Saying she never wanted to be with me, said I was a mistake, said I'm a psycho(yet she is the one who is flipping out), saying I'm immature, etc. Yet she claims she doesn't care about me nor wants anything to do with me, but acts this way towards me lol.

She's so hypocritical that I just laugh at her now because she's downgraded so much and can't tell no one who she is dating because he is scum of the earth that beats her, and I just sit back and watch her fall on her face.

There is more to the story, but my god she is ******* psycho.

MetSox17 · 09-08-2011, 06:06 PM

lol, were you not told there was another dude in the picture? give it up, you never should have tried to be friends with her in the first place, it was obvious from when it all ended that she was not gonna get back with you.

Hines · 09-08-2011, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

lol, were you not told there was another dude in the picture? give it up, you never should have tried to be friends with her in the first place, it was obvious from when it all ended that she was not gonna get back with you.

She claims there is another dude, but there isn't because she doesn't even talk to the alledged dude.

Whoops, meant to say alledgely dating in the first post I wrote. She's trying to date him, but he'll never date her and they don't talk.

MetSox17 · 09-08-2011, 06:25 PM

Either way, he's probably been railing her for a while. Why haven't you ceased all communication with her anyway? I didn't see a point to sticking around before, much less now. Move on, dude. She's making your life harder and you aren't even banging her, some other guy is.

Hines · 09-08-2011, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Either way, he's probably been railing her for a while. Why haven't you ceased all communication with her anyway? I didn't see a point to sticking around before, much less now. Move on, dude. She's making your life harder and you aren't even banging her, some other guy is.

Eh, I don't think they've had sex in a while. Like I said, they stopped talking around a month and a half ago.

I've done and moved on, I just thought maybe we could have stayed friends, but apparently she's too psycho to do that.

MetSox17 · 09-08-2011, 06:29 PM

Well then you just learned a lesson that every man does after their first serious relationship. You can't be friends after. You just, can't. Oh, and yeah, all bitches are crazy.

Hines · 09-08-2011, 06:30 PM

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Well then you just learned a lesson that every man does after their first serious relationship. You can't be friends after. You just, can't. Oh, and yeah, all bitches are crazy.

This is the truth.

Like I just find it funny that everything that wasn't a problem when we dated is now and she's apparently felt this way the whole time. ***** please.

The funny thing is, she's the type of chick who crawls back to EVERYONE, so I'll just wait till she does and then maybe hit it a few times, then bounce.

bearsfan_51 · 09-08-2011, 06:43 PM

I forgot how dramatic life was in college.

CashmoneyDrew · 09-08-2011, 07:08 PM

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I forgot how dramatic life was in college.

I've been lucky to stay drama free. But then again I've only had one girlfriend during college and that was for a short time. That and I'm not in a frat.

bearsfan_51 · 09-08-2011, 07:11 PM

I was in a frat, I think it kept my college experience pretty drama-free because I was rarely in a serious relationship.

Rob S · 09-08-2011, 07:36 PM

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I was in a frat, I think it kept my college experience pretty drama-free because I was rarely in a serious relationship.

Frats, at least in my experience, involve far more man to man drama than I would ever want.

bearsfan_51 · 09-08-2011, 07:53 PM

I never really experienced that, but we weren't a typical frat.

Brent · 09-08-2011, 10:03 PM

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I forgot how dramatic life was in college.

maybe at small schools; at A&M if you don't like someone, it's a near guarantee that you can go the rest of your life without seeing them, even if they are in your major.

Vikes99ej · 09-08-2011, 10:39 PM

I'm at a full-time job now, and I feel such less pressure than I did in college.

Raiderz4Life · 09-08-2011, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by bearsfan_51

I forgot how dramatic life was in college.

Idk...so far HS was way more dramatic. Then again..i go to a juco and spend 50hrs a week in an office so...not so much of a college life for me haha

njx9 · 09-09-2011, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Brent

maybe at small schools; at A&M if you don't like someone, it's a near guarantee that you can go the rest of your life without seeing them, even if they are in your major.

keep in mind the standard college freshman, who hasn't yet figured that out. even at umass/cu (30-40,000) it could be tough to not run into someone.

MetSox17 · 09-09-2011, 12:08 PM

there's only 18k at UTPA and i still managed to avoid my ***** ex girlfriend.

Rosebud · 09-13-2011, 11:39 AM

Hey guys, just wondering if any of you guys have dated women with kids. I've been seeing this girl for however long it's been since I last posted in here, a little under 2 months, n she has a son who is her world. I get that, I may not completely understand since I don't have my own kids, but I understand that I'll always come second to her behind her son. My issue is she's also had a lot of the guys in her life do horrible things to her and so she really really doesn't trust men.

Now I know I just need to stay patient and keep being my awesome caring self, but it bothers me a little that she's never even talked to me about meeting her son someday. I still get the feeling from her that she still doesn't trust me, which is legit cause you can only get to know someone so much in a couple of months, but it bothers me, because I feel like she's just waiting for me to hurt her.

We just got back from a weekend vacation at our mutual friends lake house with a couple of my other friends and the mutual friend's boyfriend and even there I still got that vibe from her which was really disheartening. Sorry for taking up your guys time but I needed to vent a little and it would help to hear some people who don't know me telling me that I'm worrying about this too much.

bearsfan_51 · 09-13-2011, 12:33 PM

Wait it out if she's worth it. If it's only been a few months and if she has a bad history with men, it's pretty understandable. You could talk to her about it, but I wouldn't expect much to change until she's ready to change. A lot of dudes are ****** in the head, especially with how they treat women.

If you don't think she's worth it then bounce. Everyone has baggage, but that doesn't mean you have to deal with it if you don't want to.

Also, not sure what the point of her having a kid was other than that you feel like you aren't having access to another part of her life.

killxswitch · 09-13-2011, 02:08 PM

You might need to have a conversation with her about this. No need to accuse her of anything or threaten to break it off. Just explain your thoughts and that you like her and think you two could really have something, but until she is able to let you into that part of your life your relationship is not going to progress.

Brent · 09-13-2011, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

there's only 18k at UTPA and i still managed to avoid my ***** ex girlfriend.

hard to find someone when they were left for the wild pigs... wait what?

kalbears13 · 09-13-2011, 08:28 PM

Maybe she's more worried that you're going to come in and become a father figure and then you leave him. Losing someone like that can affect a child way more than an adult.

Rosebud · 09-13-2011, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by bearsfan_51

Wait it out if she's worth it. If it's only been a few months and if she has a bad history with men, it's pretty understandable. You could talk to her about it, but I wouldn't expect much to change until she's ready to change. A lot of dudes are ****** in the head, especially with how they treat women.

If you don't think she's worth it then bounce. Everyone has baggage, but that doesn't mean you have to deal with it if you don't want to.

Also, not sure what the point of her having a kid was other than that you feel like you aren't having access to another part of her life.

Thanks man, my plan is to just wait on this one and occasionally bring up how not all of us men are scum. I mentioned her son cause that's another thing that reminds me how much I feel she is still expecting me to **** her over.

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Originally Posted by killxswitch

You might need to have a conversation with her about this. No need to accuse her of anything or threaten to break it off. Just explain your thoughts and that you like her and think you two could really have something, but until she is able to let you into that part of your life your relationship is not going to progress.

See I don't want to rush her on this. It hurts that I don't feel she trust me, but it's something I can deal with if all she needs is time to see that I'm really not going to mistreat her and hurt her.

Thanks guys, venting helps and hopefully this all works itself out in the near future.