Relationship Advice Thread - Page 285

vikes_28 · 11-07-2011, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Brent

I am pretty sure it's subzero temps there 365 days a year

i'm pretty sure you're completely wrong.

South Dakota's summer's are ridiculously humid.

CC.SD · 11-07-2011, 06:23 PM

I'm FRESH.

Ya gotta be FRESH.

There's three of us y'all, it's like FRESH FRESH FRESH.

Ya gotta, ya gotta, ya gotta be FRESH.

Brent · 11-07-2011, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by vikes_28

i'm pretty sure you're completely wrong.

South Dakota's summer's are ridiculously humid.

I don't think you understand humor. Must be from all that ice and snow.

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 09:24 AM

Allright here is my story me and this girl dated 2 years back (4 dates) and then I ended it as I started dating someone else. A little background on me im im my late 20's and looking to find the right one.

I had a 2nd date with her this past weekend and we went to the UGA football game. She got mad at me during the date bc I didnt want her to upload a pic of me on facebook. So because of that I didnt think the date went all that good. I must have been wrong bc i got the after date "I had such a good time" text message and she also had a status on facebook saying something similiar.

The thing is she isnt someone for a several diffrent reasons that I see myself in a serious relationship with. But I enjoying talking to her and spending time with her. I'm also not the kind of guy who is just gonna have sex with her and not talk to her again as im a virgin.

She always seems to do something to keep me wanting to talk/hang out even though i know I may be in to deep at this point. Maybe its me reliving some old high school fantasy since she was the head cheerleader. Maybe its something as simple as her being 4'11 with a size 2 and a D cup lol.

I also have 2 dates lined up with diffrent girls this weekend which I wanna see how those go.

MetSox17 · 11-08-2011, 10:50 AM

Are the reasons for you all not dating seriously your reasons, or hers?

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Are the reasons for you all not dating seriously your reasons, or hers?

Mine, not 100% sure from her end.

MetSox17 · 11-08-2011, 11:09 AM

It seems like you're being a little defensive here. Going into the early dating scene with a woman and having some sort of expected outcome (positive or negative) will never do you any good. Obviously you enjoyed your time with her, and if she did as well, why should you close yourself off on the idea of there possibly being something long-term?

Are you just trying to protect yourself from being hurt?

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

It seems like you're being a little defensive here. Going into the early dating scene with a woman and having some sort of expected outcome (positive or negative) will never do you any good. Obviously you enjoyed your time with her, and if she did as well, why should you close yourself off on the idea of there possibly being something long-term?

Are you just trying to protect yourself from being hurt?

I guess im just looking long term and they are few things about her that I dont know If I would want in my future wife. These are also things that arent gonna change. So i dont wanna waste my time dating someone like that at my age. But at the same time I enjoy seeing her.

MetSox17 · 11-08-2011, 01:19 PM

How old are you again?

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

How old are you again?

im 29 years old

MetSox17 · 11-08-2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by georgiafan

I'm also not the kind of guy who is just gonna have sex with her and not talk to her again as im a virgin.

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im 29 years old

Does not compute.

thefalconer · 11-08-2011, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by georgiafan

I guess im just looking long term and they are few things about her that I dont know If I would want in my future wife. These are also things that arent gonna change. So i dont wanna waste my time dating someone like that at my age. But at the same time I enjoy seeing her.

i don't like that mentality of not seeing a girl because you don't see her as wife material. everyone's values and whatnot are different but come on. let loose and see where it goes while you're still young. one thing i'm learning more and more is that there's no perfect girl out there for anybody. i agree with metsox, i think you're protecting yourself a bit. if she's digging you and you enjoy spending time with her, don't let marriage potential break what you have. cheers

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MetSox17

Does not compute.

haha yea it's true

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i don't like that mentality of not seeing a girl because you don't see her as wife material. everyone's values and whatnot are different but come on. let loose and see where it goes while you're still young. one thing i'm learning more and more is that there's no perfect girl out there for anybody. i agree with metsox, i think you're protecting yourself a bit. if she's digging you and you enjoy spending time with her, don't let marriage potential break what you have. cheers

Good point I should prob just go out with her again and see where it goes and not worry about what might happen in the future.

Ravens1991 · 11-08-2011, 02:34 PM

Is it religious based reasons georgiafan? I saw your age and you are still a virgin and figured religion might have something to do with it. If one of the things you dont like in her is she doesnt match your religious beliefs I feel something that big would mean forget about her.

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Ravens1991

Is it religious based reasons georgiafan? I saw your age and you are still a virgin and figured religion might have something to do with it. If one of the things you dont like in her is she doesnt match your religious beliefs I feel something that big would mean forget about her.

The reason Im a virgin is bc of religion but the reason I have doubts about her is bc she has kids and some health issues from a fall (nothing really major).

jrdrylie · 11-08-2011, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by georgiafan

The reason Im a virgin is bc of religion but the reason I have doubts about her is bc she has kids and some health issues from a fall (nothing really major).

Do you not ever want kids? If that is the case, I'd say just end it. It wouldn't be fair to her or the kids to drag them along.

georgiafan · 11-08-2011, 03:32 PM

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Do you not ever want kids? If that is the case, I'd say just end it. It wouldn't be fair to her or the kids to drag them along.

Yea I want kids one day. She has 2 kids and the dad isnt in the picture so I it makes things diffcult now and even more so if I project into the future. Because like she cant go on a date with me unless her kids are at someone elses house.

When we dated 2 years I never saw her kids which made alot of sense and had no problems with. Then last week she invited me to her family halloween party with her kids and alot of her family there. So I guess that plus her wanting to post my pic on facebook got me to thinking that maybe she wants something a little more serious then me.

SickwithIt1010 · 11-08-2011, 03:43 PM

I need to have a little more of an asshole side to me I guess because being the "nice" guy doesnt do ****.

thefalconer · 11-08-2011, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SickwithIt1010

I need to have a little more of an asshole side to me I guess because being the "nice" guy doesnt do ****.

samesies :(

Raiderz4Life · 11-08-2011, 07:14 PM

So I've dropped the ball.

I've fallen for my best friend *sigh*

Just we've been close friends for so long I'm almost certain i'm in her "friend/family" zone.....fml

CC.SD · 11-08-2011, 07:22 PM

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?

Brent · 11-08-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by CC.SD

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?

just stick with it until the sex goes bad, then walk.

kalbears13 · 11-08-2011, 08:01 PM

Do whatever Robin did in How I Met Your Mother.

bearsfan_51 · 11-08-2011, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by CC.SD

you are. don't embarrass yourself. Just go get laid.

Okay okay i will contribute to this thread it has been a while...I'm seeing a girl up here in the city, moved to SF about a year ago. Obviously my closest friends aren't up here but shockingly found good people to hang out with through my work and now I'm seeing one of their friends.

Except......it was supposed to be like a bar night hook up, didn't realize this committed me to dating forever. Now it's like I'm one of the gang in a new city but obviously I'm the new guy. am I stuck in this shyte for as long as I'm in the city? It was fun for a night but I'm not head over heels for her and she's not gorgeous or anything.

My current plan is to just stick with it, won't be up here forever and might as well be getting some. But it's been like two months now and I'm seriously over it. My friends up here are more important than her by a long shot, help?

I think you're going to have to marry her.

trademaster · 11-08-2011, 11:02 PM

So the pimp hand is strong at the moment

One Of my female best friend is a lesbian, always wanted to tap that ass maybe dating even for the past 2 years. Been turned down numerous times so I stopped trying.

The past year, she got into weight lifting like really got into it, all at the same time she grew feelings for me but I don't wanna sound like a douche but I'm just not attracted to her anymore.

Here is the catch, her current girlfriend who is bi is so into me.
& she is more my type, she got that pretty white girl ass.
Now how do I turn this to an orgy? Been partying too much since my ex broke up w/ me but men, you know what F<UCK A B!TCH